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Mean people with nothing better to do than to torment me!!!

I still shock myself with how very disappointed I can get. It really shouldn’t be surprising or unexpected by this point. I guess I just forgot that in the ways Oregon is wonderful, it also sucks. Oregon has these things called Citizen Initiated Petitions…which can be great…but can also, again, suck. Basically, even though the Domestic Partnership Bill passed legislature and was signed by the governor, the conservative right has filed an Initiative Petition – where they can go around and get enough signatures to force a state-wide vote on a bill passed. And they will get enough signatures. No doubt. What does this mean for me? Well, we were already going to have to wait until Jan. 2008 before the bill came into effect. Now we will have to wait, AT LEAST, until Nov. 2008, for the bill to be voted on. Then we have to cross our fingers the majority of the state isn’t bigoted, hateful bastards who feel the need to go out of their way to take away other people’s future rights and freedoms.

I was actually so excited about marrying Daphne…I’d started planning how I’d propose and the type of ring and…*cries* I hate people. Why are people so mean? Seriously, why can’t people just live and let live? Why do they have to be so concerned about what I’m doing? Am I that important? Do I truly affect them so much? Argh!

Oregon State Legislature Republican Representative Dennis Richardson states in her blog: “A Tragic Week in Review: This past week has been like no other. On Monday the world witnessed the tragedy at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia. On Tuesday Oregon witnessed the passage of Domestic Benefits for same-sex couples (HB 2007) and Civil Rights based on sexual orientation.”

You know, it is really f*cked up when my daily personal life is a tragic event lined up along side the worst school massacre in American history. What a dumb bitch.

An account from a volunteer for Basic Rights – group that helped get this bill passed:

“Our offices were broken into during this campaign, and our membership contact list was stolen. A month after that, I was lured out of my home and some assholes broke in. They threw things around, stole our few things of value and vandalized the beautiful wood paneling we had just installed, writing things like "Die, dyke bitch" and crap like that. That wasn’t the really bad thing, though. When I came in the door and discovered the break-in, the first thing I saw, on the floor of my tiny living room was the male of my nesting pair of Call Ducks, Fred. His mate Ethel had been molested but got away. Fred was dying. His neck had been broken. I had to finish what they started, and then went into the toilet and puked my guts out. Fred had been so beautiful, a perfect miniature Mallard. Okay, crap, now I’m gonna cry again.”

How can people think that granting domestic partnership rights for same-sex couples is worse than killing an animal??!! Are these people really God-fearing? They are more heathen than I am, bastards. And if it isn’t religion, what the hell is their bigoted issue? Are they that bored and miserable with their own lives?

May 19, 2007

Ah, the Publicity Machine

I thought this blog post by Gillian Anderson was quite interesting in light of how the media manipulates the truth.

A New Message From Gillian Anderson
Posted at 4:46 PM (PDT) on Thursday, April 26, 2007

THIS IS A BLOG - IT IS THE FIRST AND THE LAST

I want to address the recent confusion around whether or not I enjoyed working on the X-Files which seems to have stemmed from out-takes of interviews past present and future as far as I can work out. I don't even know where to begin but I need to keep it short and with my claws in.

My experience is that whether I am asked about the X-Files or not in an interview, details about the series and my previous comments about the series are included in the text.

If I am asked about the series, and I ask to not stay too long on the subject due to the fact that I am promoting something else, I am frequently made out to be moody/abrupt/rude/dismissive you name it. If I do talk about the series, which I recently did as it was blatantly clear that the interviewer did not like the film I was promoting, I try to make it light and fun and not repeat myself as even I am sick of hearing the same old yarn.

What usually happens is that they ask about the long hours - I say yes they were long - they say, but you have said that at times it was a living hell and I say, yes at times it was... it was insane and long and wet and all that but there were good times too - and then the interviewer says provocatively - as if I'm either an idiot for staying in the series under such conditions or an idiot for saying it was so challenging when clearly it wasn't because I stayed - why didn't you get out? And my response which is as much incredulity that someone who has written for years about the television industry has either never heard of a contract or has the shallowness to pretend he has never heard of a contract - I say, "are you kidding me?! when you go to network you sign a contract even before your last audition".....

So the dilemma, do I go on explaining the X-F contract/salary details - as if he really cares - all the while injecting positive quips about the show and how grateful I am, or do I cut it short because I really don't want to be in this conversation yet again even though I know that no matter how nicely I request the end, it will, especially in this situation, be contorted to fit the snippy mood of the journalist. None of this has much of anything to do with my experience on the series let alone me as a person.

The series went on for a long time - longer than any of us had anticipated or some of us had wished. It was the hardest work I will ever do in my life. I hope for the sake of my children and my sanity that I never have to work that hard again.

Did I hate it? At times yes.

Did I love it? At times yes.

Did I regret it or do I regret it now? Not for a second.

Did David and I hate each other? At times yes like any brother and sister, husband and wife, co-worker and co-worker forced to spend that much time together under such strenuous circumstances.

Do we hate each other now? Not in the least.

Do I imagine that when we do the film together we won't hate each other for a few hours during the filming? No. We will. Vehemently. As David waits patiently, again and again for the hair dryer to calm my frizzy hair between takes so it matches the beginning of the scene... he will undoubtedly be thinking "what the hell was I thinking agreeing to shoot with her f****** frizzy hair again?"

But we will also love each other and laugh with each other and pull pranks on each other and bug each other like we did for nine years.

And that's that.

Jul 22, 2007

I love Jodie Foster

Interview in More Magazine:

Let's talk about your ring.
This one? [Proffers left hand] It's Tiffany, an eternity ring.

You're wearing it on your wedding ring finger.
I am. I've always worn a ring. Even taking photos. Even on magazine covers. I don't take it off.

Don't you think wearing a ring like that raises questions?
Well, but that's my life. ... My life is my life. I'm not going to change my life for anybody. I just don't talk about my dad, my health, who I voted for or what I think of the death penalty because that would be trivializing my life, selling it for a magazine. I don't have any problems with anybody reporting on my life. It's just that I'm not going to bring my family into that. The number-one reason for that is: Why would I invite - encourage - more people to sit outside my door and wait for my children to go to school? I don't have any desire to participate in it.

When I interviewed you in 1994, you scoffed at the idea of cosmetic surgery. Now, as the crow's feet start to appear, have you adjusted your stance?
Nah. It's not my thing. I don't have anything against it for other people. Whatever they want to do, I'm fine with it. For me, it's really a self-image thing. Like, I'd rather have somebody go, "Wow, that girl has a big nose" than "Wow, that girl has a bad nose job." I'd rather have a comment about who I am than about something that identifies me as being ashamed of who I am.

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The Editor on AfterEllen.com's response to this interview:

Never mind Jodie's "eternity ring" - where do I get her decoder ring? She wears a wedding ring, but she won't acknowledge she's married. Her kids share her partner's last name, but she won't admit she even has a partner. She won't get plastic surgery because she's not ashamed of who she is, but she won't tell anyone who she really is, either. I give up.

Listen, I respect your right to privacy, Jodie, and I don't think you need to skywrite "I'm gay" to be considered (somewhat) out, but enough with the double talk already! All this reading between the lines is giving me a headache. No it's not. Yes it is. No, it's not ..."

Now, I do understand the frustration of being gay or somewhere else on the spectrum, and not having much OPEN representation in the media. Which is crazy because half of Hollywood is gay, just in the closet. And it is like a chicken or the egg scenario - no one will come out until it is "safe" but until more people come out it won't ever be "safe" or normal. The more visibility stars give and the more people know friends, family, work partners who are gay and in all respects normal, people will continue to have this fear of the "unknown" the "other." So, yes, I get this woman's frustration, wanting so desperately for Jodie to stand up and take a stand and say, yes I am with a women, yes I am normal and happy.

BUT, Jodie owes us nothing just because she is famous. People always assume that not being OPEN, means you are ashamed. I can attest that I am not the most open person, but it certainly isn't because I am ashamed. It is more because I don't want to deal with the hassle of other people's shitty reactions. I want to protect my happy bubble, my world. No one else has a right to enter it unless I allow them. It has nothing to do with being ashamed and everything to do with privacy. Now, I can just imagine if I were also famous and under constant scrutiny, always hearing other people's often wrong and hurtful assumptions about who I am or what I owe to society.

If Jodie Foster is doing what she has to do to protect her family , her partner, her children, her sanity, then I I say bravo. She's done an amazing job of living her life, being open without ever being OPEN. Do you think if she were ashamed she would give her children her partner's name, wear a ring and declare openly, yes it is an eternity ring and no I am not afraid to wear it in public, in pictures (that is her ways of explicitly saying - I know you know, but I don't have to comment, and no, I am NOT ashamed). People need to learn to read the subtle meanings in words. People have such high and unreasonable expectations when it comes to famous people. It drives me nuts.

EDIT: If you read this before I edited it, I accidently misunderstood Daphne, and the commentary was NOT made by the interviewer, but by the editor of AfterEllen.com. Sorry for the mistake.

Aug 19, 2007